I don’t know how she left. Whether it was after a brief love affair, a ‘netflix and chill’ or something longer… not necessarily more meaningful.
I know ‘as guys’ (I say this as ‘a gurl’) everyone sort of expects you to have your fun, have sex and be totally cool (if not happy?) if she goes.
This is obviously a really narrow and stupid view of all that it means to be human.
Let’s start with the fact you guys had sex. When people have sex they exchange something beyond the physical and it’s normal on both sides to feel attached.
Then what if there were ‘more emotions’ involved? A connection? An awesome date? A feeling like she could have been the one your were looking for…
And now (for whatever reason!) she’s not coming back. But in the haze of half sleep you could almost imagine her still being there next to you.
That is a really horrible feeling.
And sometimes it won’t shake, and you may not have the most amount of people to talk to about it. You may feel embarrassed because you didn’t know her so well, or because it’s been three months now and you’re expected to just be fine.
It is normal to not be ok. There are however some methods you might wanna try to reclaim your space and ctrl alt del where appropriate.