Hayley Quinn standing outside of a pizzeria

Don’t let your pride stop you from letting go

The art of letting go 

‘Letting go’ (read breaking up, total life decimation, the *******), is HARD no matter what way you slice it.

Having to close the door on a relationship, on your crush, on anything you have invested your time and effort into can be very difficult. And in some cases even close to impossible. 

And something I see time and time again is a reluctance to get rid of the inappropriate guy for no better reason than you have to face up to all your mates (who knew he was wrong for you all along) and admit the fairytale (or horror story) is over is tough. 

“Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.” -Anne Landers



It’s hard because:

1. You have to grieve for all of those dreams never fulfilled (you never went travelling to India! he never met your nan!)

2. You have to choose the single life as opposed to the weird pyjama like the comfort of an unstable relationship.

3. You have to admit you were WRONG. His redeeming features didn’t save him. He didn’t pull through for you. He wasn’t the one. And you were WRONG. You imagine bridal dresses burning, wishing you’d listened to your friends the first time, and dreading ringing your mum.

That bit sucks. But remember PRIDE comes before a fall so if you’re holding on because you can’t admit to letting go… it’s time that you recognised the power and the humility in learning from your mistakes, and the bravery everyone will see in you embracing the future.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over. – Nicole Sobon

If you need a gentle push and help with letting go of someone, book your session with me today!


Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and a contributor to yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The Last First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

Phone: +447517915854
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