Hayley Quinn Poetry
I hope you will enjoy this poem that was very personal and emotional to write. Please enjoy reading “The Toothbrush”.
There is a picture I can’t quite delete
Belonging in a drawer
A toothbrush re-appropriated
That was supposed to be yours
A simple cork now has meaning:
A negative ratio
A word stumbles out of my mouth,
That before I didn’t know
I’ve been told to put you in a box
And pack up all of you
To throw away my hope
Burn a letter or two
But I can’t just control alt del
Even if I wanted to
You live as a WhatsApp status
Facebook I should unfriend
A meant comment I can’t unlike
You can’t just unplug the end
You have to “ride it out”
“Youll laugh about this soon”
“Time is a healer”
“I know just the person for you”
I know you can’t wait on an echo
Unpack that drawer.
But you’re as real to me today
As you were before.
You’re lost somewhere in my head
I will dream of you
And on the other end of that thread
I know you’ll dream of me too
“The toothbrush” afterthought
This poem deals with the difficulties of ‘moving on’. After a break up you may find that you’re hit with a bunch of unhelpful suggestions from friends and family about how to ‘mind over matter’ your way through your heartache.
At the same time, you’re probably constantly reminded by them (‘oh my God that was his toothbrush!’) as you try to come to terms with the shift in your life.
It is natural after a break up for your attachment system to go a bit haywire and want to ‘re-attach’. It will take some time for your mind to catch up with the fact he’s not there anymore, or potentially never was in the first place.
A break up is a grieving process. It isn’t as simple as switching a lightbulb off. This is only made worse in an information age where the person you were with is constantly alive online.
Accept you feel sad, be kind to yourself, and as soon as you can blackout contact from him. I know you’re going to want to re-engage but until you feel sorted it’s just a million times easier on you to get back into your own space. Honestly, one truth here is that time is a healer and you’ll find as the days go by the feeling of ‘I still love him!’ will be replaced with ‘I am SO GLAD that guy is not in my life anymore’ to (hopefully) ‘I feel kind of neutral about it all..’
If you’re in this space right now I feel for you. I have an amazing community online too that can help to advise and support you through the breakup and back into a relationship that actually fulfils your needs.
To find out more details and try it out for free head to my HQ Club page!
Lots of love