The Toothbrush

This poem deals with the difficulties of ‘moving on’. After a break up you may find that you’re hit with a bunch of unhelpful suggestions from friends and family about how to ‘mind over matter’ your way through your heartache.

At the same time you’re probably constantly reminded by them (‘oh my God that was his toothbrush!’) as you try to come to terms with the shift in your life.

It is natural after a break up for your attachment system to go a bit haywire and want to ‘re-attach’. It will take some time for your mind to catch up with the fact he’s not there anymore, or potentially never was in the first place.

A break up is a grieving process. It isn’t as simple as switching a lightbulb off. This is only made worse in an information age where the person you were with is constantly alive online.

My advice? Accept you feel sad, be kind to yourself, and as soon as you can blackout contact from him. I know you’re going to want to re-engage but until you feel sorted it’s just a million times easier on you to get back into your own space. Honestly one truth here is that time is healer and you’ll find as the days go by the feeling of ‘I still love him!’ will be replaced with ‘I am SO GLAD that guy is not in my life anymore’ to (hopefully) ‘I feel kind of neutral about it all..’

If you’re in this space right now I feel for you. I have an amazing community online too that can help to advise and support you through the break up and back into a relationship that actually fulfils your needs.

To find out more details and try it out for free head to my HQ CLUB page 


Lots of love


Hayley xx

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