He was using apps and attending events, but nothing was really progressing. Although he saw himself as a good guy who was making an effort, he couldn’t understand why things weren’t clicking.

If he saw someone he was attracted to, he’d usually stop himself before even approaching.

If I saw someone I liked, I’d just tell myself, ‘that’s not something I would do.’”

We focused on helping him take social risks in real-life situations, especially around approaching women he would normally disqualify himself from speaking to.

A big shift was reframing these interactions — from something high-pressure, to simply offering a conversation.

One breakthrough moment came when he approached a woman he would previously have dismissed as “out of his league” — leading to a 15-minute conversation and her telling him he’d made her day.

Over time, he became far more comfortable approaching women and creating attraction, rather than just playing it safe.

In the year since coaching, he’s dated multiple women and is now seeing someone he feels optimistic about.

More importantly, he describes feeling like a different person — more confident, more direct, and more in control of his dating life.

Now I’ll just go over and talk. Before, I wouldn’t even let myself get that far.”

Once a conversation had started, Patrick was comfortable talking to women. The difficulty was starting one with someone he was genuinely attracted to.

He would often see someone he wanted to meet, then find reasons not to approach — she looked busy, she might be too young, or the timing didn’t feel right. Often, he would leave without speaking to her at all.

I was negotiating with myself all the time.”

We focused on helping Patrick recognise that internal negotiation and act before overthinking took over.

Through virtual coaching and the Real Academy in London, he practised approaching women in real situations with immediate feedback from the coaching team.

One particularly challenging exercise involved returning to speak to the same group of women three times. What he expected to feel deeply uncomfortable instead became a playful, positive interaction — helping him see how different reality could be from the scenario he had created in his head.

Patrick still notices the tendency to overthink, but he is much better at recognising it and interrupting the pattern.

During the London programme, he repeatedly approached women he would previously have talked himself out of meeting and discovered that their responses were far more positive than he had expected.

More importantly, he stopped seeing the women themselves as the obstacle. The biggest barrier had been the hesitation that happened before he acted.

This isn’t about learning lines or tricks. It’s about becoming a man who acts instead of a man who watches.”

Although she was confident in other areas of life, dating still brought up major insecurities.

Online dating often left her feeling discouraged, especially after experiences like ghosting or near misses that felt personal and emotionally draining.

Over time, she found herself pulling back from dating altogether.

I took a lot of that personally at first… then you just don’t want to do it.”

A major shift was learning how to stay open and engaged with dating without taking every setback personally.

We focused on building confidence in real-life interactions, developing resilience, and helping her maintain high standards rather than settling out of frustration.

One breakthrough came during the Going Renegade (London) programme, when she realised how positively people actually responded once she broke the ice and started conversations naturally.

Kate now approaches dating with far more resilience, confidence, and clarity.

She went on to meet multiple high-quality men, dating from a position of abundance rather than scarcity.

Rather than settling for “almost right,” she held out for a relationship that genuinely felt exciting, aligned, and emotionally easy.

She is now living with her partner in San Francisco and describes the relationship as loving, deeply compatible, and something she knew was right almost immediately.

I just kept at it, kept getting better at it, and my confidence kept growing.”