Pretty Enough for Him to Say Hello?

December 6, 2014
▪ 2 mins read

What does it mean to be 'Pretty Enough'?

If there's one cause I'm passionate about it's about making sure you don't feel weird taking control of your love lives. This includes feeling self-conscious and not enough- especially not pretty enough?  

As women we've heard a lot of junk over the years about what we're allowed and supposed to do with dating and the most ridiculous of all statements is this one...  

If I'm pretty enough then the right guy is going to find me and sweep me off my feet!  

This is a horrible, damaging, messed upDATING MYTHthat I'm sure has held you back from meeting the right guys.

So let me set a few things straight...

1. Meeting the right guy isn't a beauty pageant.

Do you want to be judged solely on your looks? Do you feel that's what makes you a great human being? Perhaps you think that kind of guy who is right for you will have that at the top of his wish list? RIGHT, EXACTLY. Do you apply the same standards to him? Of course, you don't! Because one thing men don't have to worry about is being pretty. So take a leaf out of their book!

2. Even if he's attracted to you he won't approach you if he thinks he's going to be rejected.

So you can be as smoking as you like but if you don't give clear signals he won't say hi. As a matter of fact, both men and women spend way to much time worrying about what the other person thinks. While he might be battling approach anxiety, this might cause you to start going down the rabbit hole of self-doubt. But you can easily change this by showing him that you are open to being approached.

3. We don't expect our perfect job to come knocking on our door

So why do we think we have this insane luck with dating? Then feel cheated/ wronged when it doesn't happen?It's time to look sharp and start using your fabulous brain to get much better 'luck' with guys. Good men are not impossible to find- but you might feel that way if you spend all of your time waiting for Mr Right to just show up.  

Stop worrying about how you look, put on your third-best outfit and go out and about and see how being happy is the key to attract great men!  

Today is the day to drop that "pretty enough" phrase from your vocabulary and join Hayley Quinn Club for some amazing dating advice!

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About the author

Hayley Quinn is a leading dating and relationship coach, with 3 million views of her TEDx talk and 18 million YouTube views. She is spokesperson for Match, a columnist for Cosmopolitan, a regular contributor to international media, and has been published by Harper Collins (“The Last First Date”, 2022) and Simon & Schuster (“Do This, Not That: Dating”, 2023).

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