chatting her up

Do people care if you’re chatting her up?

I am on a mission to help you to approach women

There has been SO MUCH CONTROVERSY about men meeting women recently (read more about this on my blog Dating after #metoo). I understand that right now it probably feels easier for you to never go there again then dare to think of flirting and chatting her up.

I understand that it can be hard to find the balance between being upfront with a woman. Especially when you are trying to show your attraction to her. And avoid being that creepy guy that you’re just not. I know from the guys I work with that a lot of great men (& this could be you!) just don’t approach FULL STOP because they’re so self-conscious of people overhearing them and JUDGING THEM.

But, do you know that women’s number 1 dating complaint is that guys never approach them?

People, simply put- do not care

Huh?! I know you think ‘well that doesn’t make sense!‘ However, the point is that women do want you to say hi to them in a way that is respectful!

It’s not about where you say hi. It’s all about how and your intentions behind it. Trust me if you’re a good guy, wanting to meet a great woman, you are not going to be condemned for approaching women.

I was pretty sure that most people are pretty much in a world of their own and don’t care what you’re doing. To road test this theory in true Quinn style I took my friend Michael and went out to prove this point by drawing attention to him approaching women using a massive whiteboard.

No women, Michael’s or bystanders were harmed during the making of this video.


Hayley x

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