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If she says ‘bless you’ or ‘awww’

Whilst it may have been hot during the 13th Century for women to ‘pity’ the knights that came slaying dragons for them, these days if she associates you with something that needs sympathy she ain’t ever going to want to have a hot and sexy adventure with you. As a matter of fact, it is kind of worse than if she says you are a dick head.


Signs of pity include (but are not limited to):


‘Bless you!’

‘That’s so sweet!’ / ‘You’re a sweetheart thank you!”

In normal life, there is of course nothing wrong with people thinking you’re just ADORKABLE.  Even more, being kind is highly underrated. It just becomes a bit problematic during that first sexy stage of getting to know someone. Apparently, cuteness and sex appeal for women do not go hand in hand.

If a woman refers to you in this way by the way it doesn’t mean that you are fundamentally worth pitying and never sexy. She’s got it all wrong. You’re hot, you’re manly and you gotta remember that.

If she has temporarily underestimated you – or put you in the wrong box in her life- you have to pull her up on this (nicely). To counterbalance your Nice Guy image simply assert yourself:

‘Hey, I’m here to flirt with you’

‘You do know I find you very sexy’

‘I’m here to flirt with you – not for you to say ‘bless you’

This isn’t meant to be hostile it’s just you communicating that she needs to give you respect not cuddles at this stage.


Remember you haven’t been born a ‘cutie’ who no one fancies. It’s all in how you engage with her that tells her how she should react to you.

You have the power – so use it wisely!

Love, Hayley x

p.s. If you struggle to communicate in the way you want with women you need to watch my video course ‘The Attraction Loophole’ it will explore how you can stay true to you and be the kind of guy she wants to date. Get access to it HERE.


Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and contributor to yahoo!style.

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