Don't let your pride stop you from letting go

August 26, 2014
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The art of letting go

'Letting go' (read breaking up, total life decimation, the *******), is HARD no matter what way you slice it.

Having to close the door on a relationship, on your crush, on anything you have invested your time and effort into can be very difficult. And in some cases even close to impossible.

And something I see time and time again is a reluctance to get rid of the inappropriate guy for no better reason than you have to face up to all your mates (who knew he was wrong for you all along) and admit the fairytale (or horror story) is over is tough.

"Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However, there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it." -Anne Landers

It's hard because:

1. You have to grieve for all of those dreams never fulfilled (you never went travelling to India! he never met your nan!)

2. You have to choose the single life as opposed to the weird pijama like the comfort of an unstable relationship.

3. You have to admit you were WRONG. His redeeming features didn't save him. He didn't pull through for you. He wasn't the one. And you were WRONG. You imagine bridal dresses burning, wishing you'd listened to your friends the first time, and dreading ringing your mum.

That bit sucks. But remember PRIDE comes before a fall so if you're holding on because you can't admit to letting go... it's time that you recognised the power and the humility in learning from your mistakes, and the bravery everyone will see in you embracing the future.

Sometimes the hardest part isn’t letting go but rather learning to start over. - Nicole Sobon

If you need a gentle push and help with letting go of someone, book your session with me today!

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About the author

Hayley Quinn is a leading dating and relationship coach, with 3 million views of her TEDx talk and 18 million YouTube views. She is spokesperson for Match, a columnist for Cosmopolitan, a regular contributor to international media, and has been published by Harper Collins (“The Last First Date”, 2022) and Simon & Schuster (“Do This, Not That: Dating”, 2023).

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