How to meet more men in real life?
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How to meet more men in real life is something that you may often be thinking as you’re sitting through a lacklustre Tinder date. Especially with a man who is slurring his way through a humble brag about knowing the manager of the establishment.
Sometimes when you do arrange to meet up with the guy he texts you, ”hey, I won’t be able to meet tonight. Something has come up with my friends. Sorry.” Or you meet and think “hmmm, did he think I wouldn’t notice that he is was 20Ibs heavier and 5 years older than his picture?”. This results in you thinking he’s lied and disappointed you already and you haven’t even got through the starter!
In other words, you are left sitting in Nando’s pondering, ‘How did it get to this? A year ago I was happy. I was living with my dream guy. And it’s all gone. My joy has been repossessed. Now my options are suit banker and wears-too-much-Joop wanker. Or arty geezer who says he’s a writer but actually a farty Barista.”
This can often induce a feeling of, “how do I meet more men in real life?”
How, indeed will you meet more men in real life?
There is a vast choice of places where you can learn how to meet more men in real life. Yet, the tools and skills to meet them are often overlooked and under-utilised.
That’s at least one example of how to meet a guy in real life.
From a coach’s perspective, our clients that work with Team HQ (who want to learn how to meet more men in real life ) do not have any issues with being creative when finding men. The hurdle that you need to jump over is one of the social stigmas that come with approaching men.
Decide what qualities and values are important to you.
Quality vs quantity
One of the most exciting and fascinating elements of dedicating time to your romantic life is the variety of qualities in people you can explore.
Whatever facet, type, or style, there is a man who encompasses those attributes.
This is something at the Hayley Quinn Club we are really big on. Outlining what it is you like about people and then the journey- not the other way round.
A few examples here
Who are the most attractive people I’ve interacted with and what qualities did they have in common?
Where did I meet these people?
Was there something happening in my life making this more likely to happen?
Dedicating time to improving attraction skills
A huge myth around dating is that your ability to be attractive is static. That you cannot improve and what you get given is final. This could not be further from the truth.
Many of our clients start at point X. Then with the combination of effort and a good strategy improve their results to achieve point Y (happiness and fulfilment).
Really harmful dating propaganda for women (which we don’t believe in!) is always promoting the idea that looks are paramount to attracting men.
Whilst looking healthy and hygienic is essential, aesthetics are just a fraction of what brings people together.
Unfortunately, this is often used as an excuse for why people can’t date. They adopt the attitude of capitulation. Stick their flag in the ground and think, “well I can be good at other stuff like Facebook posts and bunting”.
These last two statements may be related…
Luckily attraction can be learned. These are five qualities that will make any women more attractive (with practice).
You can now move towards a new equation for how to meet more men in real life.
Personal charisma + willingness to begin a conversation + great venue selection= more dates.
To be strategic with your venues and limited time build up a picture of what kind of guy you want to meet and where he may be.
Some simple questions
you can ask yourself to begin to identify venues so you learn how to meet more men in real life.
Excited to hear more about your journey, JackHQ!