What I need you to is get conscious- identify exactly what that voice is saying. Is it saying it’s not appropriate because you know what we’re on a train and she’s on her way to work?
I don’t think I should speak to her because she’s got her headphones in.
Maybe I shouldn’t speak to her because she’s clearly in an in-depth conversation with a friend.
I don’t think I should speak to her because she’s really good-looking.
It looks very intimidating whatever that fear is.
This is what you’re going to say. You’re going to verbalize and acknowledge what the internal voice of fear is saying to you. I know this sounds mental but it works and I’ll tell you why.
When you say hi to a woman you’ve got her attention. If the next thing you say to her is specific, she knows that you haven’t just said this to 20 other women that day. It shows that you’re a human being. She gets to know a little bit more about your character and your personality. And she knows it’s the truth.