How To Respond To Her Messages

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Learn how to avoid attraction killers!

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Attraction killers & the importance of confidence

 

Self esteem directly impacts your ability to create attraction and communicate effectively with her. Coming from a ‘high confidence’ mindset can really turn up the attraction on your messaging interactions and help you avoid attraction killers. If you’re fed up with chasing women, emotionally exhausting yourself, and getting nowhere you’re in the right place! 

Want to be a confident man who can effortlessly attract women? Here’s the most important point I need you to remember: the effort you make to get to know her has to feel justified. 

If she thinks you’re chasing her just because she’s attractive, you won’t communicate that you have the right standards. Remember if you were Liam Hemsworth you’d probably have a long list of qualities you’d want in a woman besides her looks. A woman’s biggest romantic fantasy is actually being chosen by a man who has options because there’s something special he sees in her. 

Without this justification you’ll come across as a low confidence guy who is just chasing and changing.

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Let’s see how this theory plays out in 3 types of messaging interactions:

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You’ve got to stop making an effort when she’s making none. 

Don’t try to find the smartest thing you can say to turn this around. Walk away and stop responding. If anything creates attraction it will actually be this as it powerfully communicates your standards.

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Asking her out when there isn’t the context to do so

If you don’t respond to the information she’s shared and just jump to the ask out, she’ll get the vibe of ‘oh he wasn’t really interested he just wanted to get to the point where he could ask me out.’

 

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Flirting out of context, challenge her instead. 

Her reaction to this is just going to be to sigh and think, ‘urgh just another thirsty guy…’ Again it fails to communicate standards. 

Attraction Killers
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Some examples of how you could do this:

Coming on too strong and out of context is a good way to kill attraction. Especially in our dating app age where women are hypersensitive to guys being too sexual too soon online. This doesn’t make you seem sexual or masculine or confident. What you have to understand is what will often work better to create that attraction is to challenge her. So rather than taking things too far, and overshooting yourself, try to learn the subtle art of how you can challenge her in a way that also develop that spark. What will work much better is to create a challenge here instead, this also often does a better job of generating some flirtation.

Outside bathroom in Thailand? Glad to hear you’re not afraid of spiders 😉 

So does this mean you’re all about summer vibes on vacations, or could I get you into ski boots one day? 

Messages like these communicate that you’re not just following her flow in the conversation and trying to please her. They show (in a way that’s playful and fun) that you’re on your own path, and you’re checking out whether she has the credentials to join YOU. 

Learn how to avoid attraction killers!

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