5 Dating Tips

5 Dating Tips A Parallel Universe Can Teach You About Meeting Women

Here’s a funny idea!

Imagine a parallel universe where gender roles were reversed! In this universe, women hit on men and men have to rebuff the sleazy advances. Now imagine there are actually 5 dating tips it can teach you about meeting women!

Who would ever have thought one of my blog posts would draw upon a British comedy from the late eighties to illustrate the science of attraction? Yep, but that’s me, folks, a proud Red Dwarf fan! Not-so-closet geek and a female PUA who is always drawing upon unconventional methods to highlight the differences between men and women. But also to underline what creates attraction and more importantly, what does NOT.

Using Red Dwarf as our inspiration, here’s a breakdown of 5 Dating Tips and things to avoid when interacting with the opposite sex!

Make a conversation interesting for a woman.

Notice how Rimmer and his female equivalent engage in stilted and mundane small talk at the disco. Escape the hairdresser conversation! Men generally prefer to converse using logic and facts. Women, on the other hand, prefer to talk emotively and creatively. Engage her imagination than by talking about dreams, hopes and past experiences. Ask questions that elicit these feelings from her. For example, if you find the conversation is getting mired in the boring topic of work, change the dynamic by asking her what job she wanted to do when she grew up.

Escalate slowly and avoid cheesy pick –up lines.

Remember that old saying, Men are like a light switch and women are like a dial? Well, notice how Rimmer’s female equivalent doesn’t escalate or turn the mood more sexual gradually but just all of a sudden lunges into Rimmer and uses a corny and cliched line ‘Hang on, haven’t you got something in your eye?’ This freaks Rimmer out and puts him on the defensive. In short: avoid.

Mirror her level of interest.

Rimmer’s female doppelganger begins to lewdly hit on him by sitting on his knee and imploring that he’s ‘begging for it!’ She gives the game away and instead of matching Rimmer’s level of interest in her: she comes on WAY too strong. Now Rimmer knows that she is only interested in him for one thing, sex. Give that game away and there is no quicker way to turn a woman off. So scrap the pushy tactics and work on building a genuine personal connection instead.

Don’t make assumptions about a woman based on what she dresses like.

Some people assume a woman is trying to get sexual attention if she is wearing provocative clothing. Newsflash: women can wear clothes to get attention from the opposite sex, but they also can wear clothes they like, that gives them pleasure, that helps to denote their social group, to help bond with their friends: so don’t jump to conclusions! Rimmer is accused of being ‘begging for it’ or why else would he ‘wear such tight jeans?’ Remember that a woman wears provocative clothing for lots of reasons: don’t assume that she is just out for sex. Often, you are most likely going to still have to connect with that woman and build connection and trust before you can turn things sexual.

Demonstrate your value.

Why does Lester never really get anywhere with the ladies? Because he doesn’t demonstrate his sensitive, intelligent or caring side. He puts the woman off with his crude laddish behaviour, such as burping the alphabet. To demonstrate your value, talk with passion about your life. Tell the woman what motivates you, what makes you get out of bed in the morning and connect with her on her passions too.

Red Dwarf is a comedy: I get that. it is ‘over the top’ but hopefully, from seeing things from the ‘flip side’ we can understand a little better why women react the way they do to some advances.

Understanding what makes women tick will improve your chances of successfully approaching women, getting their numbers and building relationships with them.

Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and a contributor to yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The Last First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

Phone: +447517915854
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