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Are You the Good Guy or the Bad Guy?

What makes one a playboy?

If you’re not having the crazy, sexy fun life that you want I think I might know what your problem is… if you answer YES to these 3 questions I’ve got a diagnosis for you šŸ˜‰

  1. Are you a morally upstanding, decent guy?
  2. Do you think that most men who get lots of women are jerks?
  3. Do you think that if you just want sexual uncommitted relationships with women that you’re automatically EVIL?


Ok, according to your answers you’re suffering from Nice Guy Syndrome!

Nice Guy Syndrome

The termsĀ Nice GuyĀ andĀ Nice Guy syndromeĀ describe men who view themselves as prototypical “nice guys,” but whose “nice deeds” are in reality only motivated by attempts to passively please women into a relationship and/or sex.

So, if you recognise yourself in this definition we need to get a few mindsets around sex straightened out for you.

1. You can have morals and sexy adventures.

Women have to know there are guys out there who are decent, good people and who are sexual animals. Trust me it’s quite frustrating as a woman to have guys that you like as people but who would never, ever dare to show you their sexual side.

2. You’re only a jerk if you deceive, lie and coerce people into having sex with you.

THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE. Plus you have to meet women in a way that’s in line with your values as a person or otherwise you will stop yourself from meeting women as you’ll be in a battle with your consciousness. And I know you don’t want to be that guy.

3. Not all women want relationships.

In fact, that assumption is kind of insulting. Women can have patches (or whole) lives were having a ball & chain relationship just isn’t their thing. If you’re in a headspace where you’d like to meet a girlfriend: look for women who want the same thing as you and (vice versa) if you want sexy fun adventures to find women who are looking for the same thing.

What’s the first step to doing that?

Get GREAT at saying what you want without telling her what she wants.


‘You should relax and just go with the flow,‘ She doesn’t have to do ANYTHING you say!


‘If my work wasn’t so busy things would be different. But I think right now that’s probably what’s best.‘ Come again? Get some clarity!


I want to enjoy hanging out with you and I find you very sexy.


That’s cool! I think it’s good that you know what you want and have the chops to express it. You know how I feel though and if you change your mind, and want that experience I’d love to share it with you.

And you know what? If you give her theĀ FREEDOM TO CHOOSEĀ and you are CLEAR ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT (no BS) you may be surprised how many women are on exactly the same page as you

Hayley x

Hayley Quinn

Hayley QuinnĀ is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UKā€™s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on herĀ TED talkĀ and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson forĀ Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist forĀ CosmopolitanĀ and a contributor toĀ yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The LastĀ First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

Phone: +447517915854
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