sexy dress or a hoodie

Do women get approached more in a sexy dress or a hoodie?

Does changing the clothes change the person?

If you think she gets approached all the time (whether she’s in a sexy dress or in a hoodie) and won’t want to hear from you this video WILL surprise you.

To road test this theory I headed down to a male-dominated area of London, with a suitcase, a map and tried to look like an approaching magnet…

To mix things up I also tried 3 different looks to see if it made a difference whether I was wearing a hoodie or a sexy dress!

Experiment background

I am Hayley Quinn and I am here today to test out interesting phenomena: do we think women get approached all the time. And how they react if you are put off for approaching the woman you want because you think she must get approached all the time. She hears this every five seconds of the day. She won’t want to hear from me.

We are currently in a road test where the women get approached full stop and all. To do that I’m going to try and make myself a variety of approachable scenarios.

As you may notice I brought with me a suitcase and a tube map which is here to suggest that I am lost and I need help.

I’m going to try and make myself look like he should come over and talk to me. I’m also going to be trying this out in a variety of outfits. So today to start with we have outfit one which is my normal stuff. It’s a little bit of Rock and Roll. Possibly not perfect for this scenario because I get okay every day I’ve got a relatively low cut top on. We will also be testing out if I’m wearing a hoodie and trainers with my hair’s high back and finally an extremely short skirt with a pretty women boots on.

Something to look forward to!

We are in the city today which is full of men on their lunch break. Let’s see if I stand here looking like I desperately need to approach doing my best damsel in distress whether any guys today are actually going to stop to try and help me?

The results

My data is not that scientific but I feel that fewer men approached me when I was dressed up in a sex kitten outfit. I got helped out just as much when I was in my other outfits. The noticeable thing is guys checked me out more when I was wearing this but no more men approached me. So guys are just not approaching women at all!
The other difference I noticed is the speed at which I was approached when I was wearing this. A guy nearly killed himself on a bike.
He spent longer talking to me so I suppose what you could say is I got the longest interaction when I was dressed this way.
When I was dressed in my normal stuff it was a middle length interaction. And when I was dressed in the hoodie it was the shortest
interaction. So interaction length goes up the hotter you look apparently.

My advice to you

The one other little thing is interesting is especially with that one guy on the bike. I was flirting with him. That is really as much as a girl ever give you. I was complimenting him and was warm, friendly and engaged.
He had nothing to do with my day and at no point did anyone apart from maybe a look even suggest staying in touch or time bridging into a further conversation despite the fact I’m a walking conversation point.
Men, you’re thinking she must get approached all the time. N,o she doesn’t. Not even when she’s a damsel in distress!
When you see a woman you like, approach her no matter if she’s wearing a sexy dress or a hoodie. Do not think someone else is already doing it!

Would you have approached any of the ‘Hayleys?’

Hayley Quinn x

Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and a contributor to yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The Last First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

Phone: +447517915854
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