don't drink alcohol

How to explain you don’t drink alcohol

When it comes to explaining that you don’t drink alcohol, follow the words of Kate Moss ‘never justify, never explain’.

You may think that not drinking is a social faux pas, and awkward to introduce. However, the truth is that if you present this information in ‘the right way’ it will always be a plus point to the right women.

I work with plenty of men who don’t drink because:

  • They’re madly into health and fitness.
  • They don’t like the taste.
  • It’s against their beliefs.

Personally I’m not fussed by alcohol and full on board with everyone’s right to choose what they want to do.

When it comes to dating though (particularly in the UK/USA) booze can feel like such a fundamental part of our mating rituals. Even the saying ‘I don’t drink’ can feel like you might as well say ‘I’m a boring stick in the mud. I’m bad in bed too‘.

All of which, as we know, is not true.

To prevent her from interpreting your health buzz as ‘snooze town’ you need to state your perspective confidently and without justifying yourself.

DO NOT say ‘oh I know it’s weird but I just stopped drinking because I didn’t really like it, but I may change my mind in the future, I don’t know really...’ WEAK FAIL

Instead, say ‘I don’t drink alcohol because it’s never been my thing

If she challenges you on this say ‘Are you implying I can’t have fun without alcohol? If so it would be my pleasure to prove you wrong

Then she’ll know you’re good in bed too.

Love, Hayley x

Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and a contributor to yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The Last First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

Phone: +447517915854
Back to Blog