escape yourself

Searching for love to escape yourself?

Love and escapism 


Not long ago I was invited to talk at the TEDx event at the University of Nevada. The following is a brief excerpt from my talk: Searching for love to escape yourself. I hope you enjoy it!



So, let me tell you a love story.

Once upon a time, not so long ago, in a land I Googled to be 5,172 miles away, I met a guy, and he was perfect.

So, I’ll tell you the meeting story. I’d just taped this really cool TV show about experimenting with your sexuality, and I met him at the after-party through one of our famous friends who was a DJ.

He was tall, dark, handsome, kind of a rock star, and a little bit emotionally unavailable.

Very soon, we were spending all of our time together. We threw these really cool parties for all of our cool friends, we went backstage at every festival, and, when my hands were cold, he would take them under his arms to warm them up.

He was my best friend, and I thought we would be together forever.

And so strong was that belief that when the warning signs came, I just ignored them. Until the day that I couldn’t ignore them anymore.

I’d become quite unwell, I wasn’t so pretty anymore, and I definitely couldn’t go out to any of the parties. In fact, I was, for the first time in my life, actually vulnerable because I was miscarrying our baby. And at that point, when I was at my weakest, he left.


Watch the video to find out the end of the story!



Love and sex can be awesome but they can also be the ultimate act of self escapism and self-sabotage. It’s my pleasure to bring you this TEDx talk I did straight from the heart.

It would mean THE WORLD to me if you shared this important message via your Facebook, Twitter, or an email to a friend who could do with hearing it.


If you are searching for love to escape yourself, take a step today towards loving yourself!


2021 UPDATE!

Have you been wondering what was happening inside my head during this talk? Or how I ended up talking about such personal experience?

I am so happy to bring you a behind the scene look into the story that changed my life!



Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and a contributor to yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The Last First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

Phone: +447517915854
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