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Why not buy drinks for girls

To buy drinks, or not to? That is the question!

Last week I uploaded a silly youtube video of a guy’s wallet exploding when he offered to buy drinks. I wouldn’t really advise dousing your wallet in lighter fluid unless you’re a professional. *But* I’d kinda like it if there was an anti-sugar daddy feature in most wallets.

Because buying drinks for girls is lame and genuinely won’t get you very far with anyone decent.

That’s not to say if you’re on a date with a girl you like you can’t buy her a drink. Likewise to those with girlfriends. But to walk up to a girl in a bar and have your initial gambit as ‘cosmopolitan or mojito’ you’re immediately attracting the wrong women and misrepresenting yourself.

What is the real cost of a drink?

Girls will smile and say ‘yes‘. But inwardly they’re thinking ‘sweet my good looks have got me free booze!’. Followed shortly by ‘how quickly can I escape before I have to schmooze this guy.’

And if girls do schmooze you AVOID any decent, self-respecting smart woman does not need to flirt for her dinner or drinks or holiday or whatever.

Personally I find as a woman if you do it leaves you with an unwashed feeling. You don’t want to engage with women who like this! Plus there are plenty of guys who buy girls drinks and you do nothing to distinguish yourself by the size of your wallet.

If you want a woman to be interested in you make the conversation about you and her. And if you buy the first drink make sure it’s with a caveat of ‘you can grab the next one‘.

The right tone for a relationship is one of equality not of larceny.

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Hayley Quinn

Hayley Quinn is an internationally recognised dating coach and founder of the UK’s largest dating coaching company. She has over 2 Million views on her TED talk and over 100,000 YouTube subscribers.

She is the spokesperson for Match, the biggest online dating platform in the world. She has been featured on BBC1, Sky and Channel 4 and is a regular columnist for Cosmopolitan and a contributor to yahoo!style.

Her first fiction book “The Last First Date” has been published by Harper Collins and her non-fiction book “Do This Not That” (Simon & Schuster) is due for publication in early 2023.

Her goal is to bridge the gap with modern dating and help inspire people to learn to love dating.

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